Adding Your Personal Talents To The Wedding And Reception

Posted by Dave

Fact of Life Number 1: Not all of us are musically gifted.

Fact of Life Number 2: Even if we do have talents, we may not wish to showcase them at a family wedding – especially our own.

Right off the bat, I want you to understand that I understand both those “facts of life” listed above. Weddings are emotion-filled gatherings, even without adding the pressure of performing a song or dance for family and close friends. The very last thing you want or need is to blubber your way through a rendition of “Don’t Worry – Be Happy.”

Having said all the above, let me just add that – if your constitution is up to the challenge – any musical gift you bring to the proceedings will make the evening infinitely more personal and meaningful to those gathered around you.

Let’s face it: one wedding and reception tends to be pretty much like another. Unless you go outside your own cultural or religious niche (like to a Greek or Thai wedding, for instance), the next 20 nuptials you attend will probably follow much the same path as the previous 20.

While such sameness can be familiar – and therefore comfortable – it can also rapidly become boring.

After a great many such events, they become a blur – standing out in our minds only as a result of two things (one good, and one very bad.)

The Bad? We seem to never forget “the night the cake fell” or “that time when lightning knocked the power out.”

The Good: I treasure my memory of the father-of-the-bride who ducked out of the reception for a few minutes, then came back in with his bagpipes and kilt. His medley of Scots favorites marched the bride and groom all the way out the hotel lobby to their waiting limo.

Another time, the bride and her sisters performed a tradtional Irish wedding step-dance. Then there was the brother of the groom who had a Broadway-quality voice. He sang for the first dance (adding a few sweet personal ad-libs regarding the couple), and those who were in attendance will always remember it with affection.

I’ve even had a couple of brides who serenaded their grooms. One was so good, I invited her to sing with our band on an ongoing basis.

Of course, all these outstanding wedding memories only worked because (a.) there was some talent in the family to begin with, and (b.) those who performed were able to conquer whatever jitters or overwhelming emotions might have interfered.

So – as I said in the beginning – this may not work at your wedding. But give it some thought, anyway.

After all – you want 2 things from your wedding: (1) that it be remembered, and (2) that we all remember it for good reasons.


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