Archive for February, 2007

Your Reception Is A Mirror Of You/uoY

Wednesday, February 28th, 2007

Face it – you don’t even have to have a wedding reception. My mom and dad didn’t, and their marriage lasted 63 years!

So if you choose to have one, it should reflect your preferences.

Would you be more comfortable at a low-key, one-hour gathering with punch and wedding cake in the Fellowship Hall? Then that is exactly the reception you should have.

But if you have waited your whole life for this one day, and you are willing to be Cinderella -princess of the royal ball – then that – as far as your budget permits – is the event you should plan.

And budget is one of the two major considerations, when discussing receptions. (The other is how many hours your feet can hold up.) In general, the longer a reception lasts, the more money Daddy (or you) will sink into it. But your comfort is key here.

If your personality lends itself to being the center of the universe for several hours, dancing with relatives, in-laws, and friends (plus a few total strangers) until your feet are (mercifully) numb, while blowing a significant portion of your inheritance, then party down, girl!

But, if you’re the shy and retiring type, save yourself some misery (and enough money for the downpayment on your first house) by keeping your reception short, sweet, and (relatively) cheap.

So remember: the reception itself isn’t required. The only rule is that whatever you decide to do must reflect your personality. Not your Mom, not your groom – you. It’s your reception and your day. You are entitled to enjoy it.

The Bride Trumps Everybody

Monday, February 26th, 2007

When planning a wedding, the bride is the ultimate decision maker. She is Eisenhower at D-Day, Bernstein conducting the philharmonic, and the Prom Queen, all in one excessively-priced white dress.

Wedding planners are great (more on this later), Mom can help a thousand ways (ditto), and Dad can do his 3 jobs (show up, pay up, and shut up). But nobody outranks the bride.

This especially includes the groom, who may mistakenly think that this is his wedding, too. Fortunately, most guys would be just as happy to be married by “Elvis” at the Chapel Of The Bells in Las Vegas, having no more than a garden slug’s level of interest in the details of the nuptials. His goal is simply to marry you. Don’t be angered by such behavior. God made guys this way for a reason, and that reason is so that you can have the wedding of your dreams, not his. (His dreams don’t actually kick in until the honeymoon.)

If this does not prove to be the case, I advise cancelling the ceremony now. Any bozo who thinks his wedding opinions matter is obviously a control freak who will make your marriage hell. Return the gifts, cancel the reception site, and run from this guy. (But hang on to the dress. A more reasonable hairy-legged male will come along.)

Welcome to the new site!

Monday, February 26th, 2007

Hello! I’m Dave Tanner – pianist, bandleader, emcee, and speaker/entertainer.

If you are planning a special event, this website is designed to help you decide if your needs and my talents are a good fit. If so, I will be honored to be of service.

To help you reach your decision, I’m in the process of filling the site with photos, musical downloads, program descriptions, and comments from satisfied customers. Help yourself to whatever is applicable to you.

My new party blog (updated twice each week) is your FREE source for advice on how to make your event a spectacular success. And, because it tells you so much about my personal philosophy regarding parties, it will also help you reach a decision on whether or not I am right for you.

I welcome your questions and comments, and I thank you for giving me an opportunity to help make yours the best party ever!

All the best,
Dave Tanner